How to be happy: tips and what to do

How to be happy in life, helpful tips and a few simple habits that will make you a happier person, despite the problems, the concerns and difficulties.
In our times the happiness has become a utopia, all seek it, everybody wants it and no one seems able to grasp it. How to be happy in our times?
I recently had an interesting conversation on Twitter about their own happiness, knowing that there are so many manuals and a few practical lessons, I was told that the guides bring anxiety. Well, this is not a manual on how to find happiness, but rather a series of tips on how to be happy now, every day.


Why is it so hard to be happy? Because we bombard you with fear, sadness and depression from all sides, surely because very often the expectations are too high and because we have a concept increasingly high and abstract of what happiness is. Almost everyone is looking for happiness outside of themselves, often in material things or with the wrong people. To be happy we must reset and rediscover ourselves and our habits, our life.


How to be happy: the tools

To be happy, or to start the search will place the tools we need:

         self-knowledge

         antidote to stress, anxiety and fear

         real expectations

         caution

How to be happy: the basics

To begin to find out what really is happiness starts with the basics.

Seek happiness: where we are looking for happiness? In the money? In material objects? In a perfect love? In a complicated project? That's why we are surprised when we see people who have less than us but they are much happier, or are able to face life with serenity.

The handy happiness: you can be, or try to be happy every day would be enough to look at those little moments that should make us feel good and instead we do not appreciate why we always think about what we will be happy when we have this or that.


Reverse anxiety: when we hear of being happy assails us anxiety because who knows what will happen next, or tomorrow, who knows if they really succeed we deserved and how long. Instead it should avert anxiety and simply let go then, postponing the anxiety when it is his time. Anxiety and happiness are always within us, then we must be the ones to balance them.

concrete and real happiness: happiness not It must have an abstract concept of which there is one main idea, according to what is our life and our routines we need to establish what is happiness for us to be together with people we love, read a book, watch a movie, make a cake for someone, a chat between friends, an unexpected time as a night walk on the beach or in the snow, make new acquaintances, etc.


How to be happy: the ingredients of happiness

Try to be happy is a little 'how to make a cake, if they are wrong ingredients or dosage will never good. So even seek happiness takes the right actions. See you some advice on what to do to be happy.


Tips to be happy

Be tolerant and kind to others: let's be careful about those around us, courtesy and kindness and generosity help us to be happy. Making someone else happy makes us feel good. If we look at the world askance, we are rude or we take it for little things, we are always tense, with guard up and perpetually pissed off with the world. The simple gestures of kindness, help someone in need, smiling make us feel good. Important: let us not brood over wrongs and not hold grudges people, our mind is very clever to bring out these feelings when we least expect it.


Address the problems: the problems are not mine thrown at our happiness but situations to solve, challenge to accept and face, you can be happy despite the problems but this happiness requires the bases mentioned above and must be built day by day. He is not feeling sorry for himself or complaining that it copes with the problems.
Evaluate what we have: the family in harmony, a partner who loves us, a puppy that is crazy for us, a warm home, people who care about us are all things of which to be thankful and who cause our happiness. Happiness may be a new car, but for how long? A new phone until did not begin to think that it is old and we want a new one? The objects offer a fleeting happiness (except probably books). Being happy is a state that transcends the material goods.
Dreaming: dreaming helps us to persevere happiness, as long as they do not aiming too high. Let us set goals and strive to reach them with commitment, without expecting too much and without being beset by

anxiety.


Distracted: every day it can happen something that shocks, there annoys there but let's not sour the happiness of that day. We go out, we chat, we do sports,
Do not complain, everything can always be better, everyone has their own troubles and problems, you must look beyond.
Live in the present: it must seek happiness in daily life, in small gestures do not live with the idea of ​​the trouble tomorrow or tomorrow there may be new problems.
Asking questions: what is really happiness? What is happiness for us? It is not the same for all, is not determined for all by the same factors. What we really want from life and what are we doing to get it?
Resting: you can not always run right and left, you must also take time for themselves, to rest when the time is right and above all try to sleep.
Be positive: how to be happy if you are always pessimistic? We have to think that tomorrow is another surprise, not for negative force, and that things can not always go for the worst.


Treat friendships: focus your energy on those people who really make you feel good. Trying to choose as friends people who deserve your time and your attention for the simple reason that make you feel good. Do not get attracted by appearances and not be misled by opportunists. The behavior of a person is much more important than words. Surround yourself with friends who reflect the person you want to be. Choose friends who will fill with pride, people you admire, who love you and respect you for who you are. People who make your day a little 'brighter, simply for the fact of being there.
Do not seek the approval of others: it is necessary to be happy no matter what others tell us, all the downsides that we show, by their pessimism and their criticisms. We do not need anyone's approval to be happy and live as we please.
Being happy is a real objective and concrete, enough to want it.